Thursday, July 12, 2007
Quotes by Albert Ellis - Founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.
I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.
If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.
Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.
People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.
People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
We teach people to be flexible, scientific and logical in their thinking and therefore to be less prone to brainwashing by the therapist.
Posted by Johana Johari at 7:07 AM